The Three Stages of Growth in Marriage

by Dr. Wayde Goodall

Stage One: They are attracted to each other. Their attention is focused on each

other. The couple spends much time thinking about each other.

They forget other things and walk around smiling about the one they have married.

They see only the best in each. They submit to each other. They enjoy each other. They ignore

the faults of each other.

Stage Two: Adjustment Stage (Understanding and growing through differences) .

During this stage, delight can turn to confusion, bitterness, and

tension. They become dull. Routine and boredom become part of the

couple's life. Most excitement is gone. There is some loss of interest and some change in feelings.

People do not care much about the way they look, because they cannot

look perfect all the time. They argue. The couple begins to quarrel over their differences. They defend themselves. They criticize each other.

They become disappointed. Many couples give

up 

at this stage and seek divorce.

Some make the mistake of trying to

find feelings of love with another

person. This unfaithfulness often

destroys their marriage. Others

become stuck in this stage of

discouragement. They do not make

the effort to work through this

stage and understand their spouse.

Stage Three: Mature love.

Stage Three is described in 1

Corinthians 13, the "Love Chapter."

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not

envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It

is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not

easily angered...

In Stage Three, we see mature love.

This is not just romantic feelings.

Mature love is a decision to do the right thing, say the right thing, and be the right person.

characteristics of mature love.

1. Mature love is tender.

2. Mature love is responsible.

3. Mature love is accepting.

4. Mature love is secure.

5. Mature love is truthful.

6. Mature love is humble.

7. Mature love is willing to grow.

If you want to have an heaven on earth family life, Understand that you must go through these

Stages and ask the holyspirit to help you to

adjust positively.